Best Book Recommendations About Love and Relationships

Books, love and coffee

Hi, my name is Tim and I’m your Irish guy who loves to read and find answers to life’s most complicated questions within the pages of a book. I find books fascinating and impartial.

Reading a good book is comparable to talking to a life coach or to an insightful person who knows exactly what to say at any given moment and without any judgment. And I always find that comforting and reassuring.

If you like books and literature as much as I do, and you guys spend at least twice a week sitting at Barnes and Nobles stores, please feel free to join me in exploring some of the best excerpts, snippets, and lines from books that have helped me expand my understanding about the different aspects of life including love and relationships. 


Dealing with relationships can be tough and complicated. While there’s a whole lot of advice that you can get from friends and family, everything seems to be easier said than done.

Seeking advice from people we know is helpful – there’s no doubt about that. But sometimes, we cannot avoid sensing hints of biases and judgments.

And aside from that; these people, no matter how much we mean to them, have their own fair share of life’s complications which they also have to deal with. For this reason, I have learned to rely on my own and to become self-sufficient in handling matters of the heart.

these people, no matter how much we mean to them, have their own fair share of life’s complications which they also have to deal with. For this reason, I have learned to rely on my own and to become self-sufficient in handling matters of the heart.

Through the years, books had been my ally and source of wisdom and understanding. Whenever I find myself battling with self-doubts, loneliness, and confusion in handling relationships, I read self-help books and try my best to absorb their message.

I highlight and take note of some of the lines which I find powerful and impactful, and I contemplate them as I relate them to my own situation.

And for some reason, these lines have the power to change my views about certain things. They inspire me and the impartiality of their message allows me to widen my perspective.

By reading books, I’ve become more understanding and more accepting of things that are beyond my control. 

My personal passion of reading books.

My Personal Relationship

There’s no specific formula that can magically transform a relationship into something that’s perfect. We don’t live in a fairytale land wherein a kiss is all it takes to ignite romantic feelings that can lead to a happily ever after. In reality, “the show won’t always fit” which only means that things can’t always be perfect. 

My girlfriend and I had been together for four years now. The first year was blissful. The second year was comfortable. The third year has come and gone without us even noticing the days and months that passed us by. And then came the fourth year wherein we almost lost it.

Our relationship became just a part of our daily routine and I ended up craving for some excitement and a new diversion without even realizing that my girlfriend felt the same way.

Soon enough, we agreed to give each other time and space to sort out our feelings and to weigh down our options. We figured that it was all we needed to re-discover the value of our relationship.

Soon enough, we agreed to give each other time and space to sort out our feelings and to weigh down our options. We figured that it was all we needed to re-discover the value of our relationship.

Discovering a “Seemingly Harmless” Social Habit

Technology has a major influence on human behavior. It’s amazing how much you can accomplish within just a few clicks on your computer. And it’s even more amazing how much information you can get from the internet.

In an instant, you can be drawn into something (or someone) that has the power to derail your feelings. Yes, everything has become digital, including the act of cheating.

In an attempt to bring some excitement into my life, I explored profiles of women in various dating apps and eventually became drawn to free chat lines which allowed me to chat with other local singles over the phone.

The chat line numbers allowed me to enjoy an entirely new social life. I met a few singles that count as my favorite phone dates. They don’t know me and I don’t know them.

We just talk about anything under the sun like hobbies, relationships, love advice, and life in general. The chat lines became my private little world wherein I can talk to single women and engage in all types of conversations. It kept me entertained during those times when I felt the weight of my relationship on my shoulders.

Seeking Friendly Advice

Whenever we feel lost and distracted, it is natural for us to seek some helpful advice from people that we know to find comfort and reassurance. So I tried talking to my close friends.

However, I had some difficulty disclosing to them some aspects of my relationship. In a spur of the moment, I dialed one of the chat line numbers because I had the strong urge to talk to someone.

I figured that sometimes, it’s better to talk to a complete stranger because you can say anything you want without fear of judgment. In my case, I knew I needed to hear a woman’s point of view about the current state of my relationship.

Realization and Gaining Wisdom from Books

The extra time I had in my hands also allowed me to catch up on my reading. I started reading “The Book of Love” by Fionnuala Kearney which is an emotional epic love story from the Irish Times bestseller. In this book, I learned that “without love, we’re just people roaming through life, wandering around in a valley of tears”.

That was how I felt during that time. I felt that I was not living but merely existing. I needed the love of my life to get back on track. I realized that loving someone means going through life’s ups and downs together no matter how difficult the odds are.

And within a couple of days after finishing the book, I called my girlfriend and vowed to put our relationship back into perspective. I was done playing around and acting cool. I knew I needed my life back.

Advice to Readers

Whatever type of relationship you are in right now, try to find valuable insights to make things work out for the best and for you to claim what you deserve. Some of the best lessons in life can be found within the pages of a book. If you’ll try to dig deeper into the words, you will find the answers to your questions.

Various Relationship Concepts and Book Recommendations

Love books recommendations

Toxic Relationship

A relationship can be defined as toxic if it is abusive, selfish, and based on jealousy and lies. People who are in such relationships are usually unaware that they are in an unhealthy situation. A toxic relationship can have a traumatic impact on the persons involved.

Book Recommendation: Toxic Relationships: How to Identify an Unhealthy Relationship and Take Action to Repair It or Free Yourself by Devin Walters

Healthy Relationship

A healthy relationship is one that is based on mutual love, trust, honesty, and respect. A relationship that is healthy has allowances for mistakes and incompatibilities. It is also free from judgment and other preconceived notions.

Book Recommendation: The Seven Secrets to Healthy, Happy Relationships by Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr. And Heatherash Amara

Business and Love Relationship

For business-minded individuals, the most trustworthy business partner is someone whom they can fully trust. In this case, it becomes feasible to mix business with romance.

After all, being in a relationship means doing and sharing things together and becoming rich together – and running a business could be one of them. In this way, you cannot only keep an eye on your business but on your personal life as well.

Book Recommendation: The Business of Love by Cheris Hodges

Affair Relationship

An affair is a sexual relationship, passionate connection, or romantic friendship between two individuals who are already attached or committed to a relationship. It is a type of relationship that is usually kept a secret because it counts as cheating on your partner.

Book Recommendation: The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

Phone Relationships

Phone relationships exist only within the telephone lines. The individuals involved have no physical contact and their relationship is based on meaningful telephone conversations alone.

Those who are into this type of relationship are typically the ones who are not yet ready to get into a serious relationship and are more interested in flirting and playing around. Phone relationships usually exist within the gay chat lines, adult chat lines and singles chat lines.

Book Recommendation: Phone Sex by Miranda Austin

Polyamorous Relationship

From the word “polyamory”, this type of relationship refers to having intimate and romantic relationships with multiple individuals with each one being aware of it.

It may include several relatively equal partners in an ongoing emotional relationship with the consent of all parties involved. It is also referred to as an ethical and consensual non-monogamous relationship.

Book Recommendation: The Polyamory Toolkit: A Guide to Polyamorous Relationships by Dan Williams